Mentally? Subbing, by a mile. Fighting back unsuccessfully (fun because I'm stronger than I look but not as strong as any guy my size, so they get surprised at first but I can push with no chance of winning) is fun too but I'm not bratty otherwise. Being out of control in general, not tied up or passive though.

Physically it's changed over time. The last baby I had moved things around and I was suddenly able to get off from penetration and I enjoy that so, so much, it's convenient and still kinda feels like a party trick. Handheld shower thing or fingers (outside not inside) if solo, though.