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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (lemmy.world)
submitted 3 years ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[โ€“] 28 points 3 years ago (1 child)

"Nothing is fun 8 hours a day" isn't an advice but at least it's true

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  • [โ€“] 15 points 3 years ago (3 children)

    In the 90's before I was doing it professionally, I used to go on massive 10 - 15 hour binge programming sessions only stopping when I realized I hadn't eaten in that entire time. It was some of the best fun I've ever had. But it happened rarely and organically, not 5 days a week on a predetermined schedule.

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  • [โ€“] 6 points 3 years ago

    I like programming, and I program for a living, but there is nobody on earth who gets out of bed every day and is like "Aw yiss I'm gonna go code a bunch of salesforce integrations!"

    I've been working long enough that at this point my work goal is like, I want a job that 95% of the time I do not actively dread. I don't need to be excited about it, I just need it to be fine.

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  • [โ€“] 3 points 3 years ago

    Totally relatable! As you already pointed out, it's the "a day" part. I like listening to the radio but I talked to a former car radio tester who said that his car radio is never on and he enjoys the silence. It's one thing to do stuff you like when you want to, maybe even binge, and another to have a schedule.

    I started programming at school and when I studied computer science, another student asked me after the first semester what I'm going to program on vacation. I stared at them and said I have vacation. Now I programm full time and barely in my free time.

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