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This is the first birthday where I'm really feeling how objectively worse my life has gotten in the past year. How do I deal with that? (hexbear.net)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Last year I was employed at a decent paying job with good benefits, doing work that mattered. Now I'm seven months unemployed, out of benefits and still getting ghosted by employers. Most everything else has remained the same (no friends, uncertainty with my gender and how I want to live my life, stuck living with my mom) except that I started seeing a therapist ~10 months ago who I really like.

It just feels really, really bad. I'm assuming other people have had this experience in their life already (I am both fairly young and a late bloomer in most respects), so I guess I'm asking how you dealt with it and how things got better, assuming they did :aware:

you can also commiserate with me if you like

thanks gamers

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

If I, as a secret ~~FBI~~ CIA agent at Langley posting on a Ukranian hater/train enjoyer forum, can offer anything, it's perhaps a different perspective for your mental. There's a lot about improving your situation that is fun, revitalizing, and rewarding without feeling punitive and grindy. Perhaps you can think about how much room there is to explore and expand in life. Like, if my problem was feeling meek and insecure around others and took a BJJ class, it's not like I'm resigned to having to be roughed up, it'd be like "Wow, I didn't realize how fun it would be to treat rough housing as an art!"

Besides, constant growth is for capitalists and even a capitalist knows the money line is all jagged and weird as it climbs to infinity in pursuit of providing value to shareholders. There's nothing you need to keep in mind in life besides trying your best to get the things you want and loving as hard as you can in every moment. The rest will take care of itself even if you never give it another thought again. I would SHARE a moment by HOLDING you meow-hug

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

meow-hug