We moderate far more harshly than blahaj zone does
I disagree. Hexbear wasn't willing to defederate over this issue for example, and you've still got users that regularly accuse me of transphobia. We clearly do things differently, but it's not only Hexbear that takes it seriously.
The issue is more to do with staff numbers and community size.
The issue raised here for example. I never saw the comments firsthand, and by the time I saw a report on them, they'd already been removed. For comments on non blåhaj communities, reported by non blåhaj users, I never even see the report, even if the comment is from a blåhaj user. So in cases like this, until a blåhaj user reports it, it will often slip under my radar completely.
More users means more chances for a report that I see before I randomly stumble across it myself.