As someone who went from a daily user of reddit for a decade and now hasn't used reddit basically since the app's red wedding, I really don't think this is it. As much as I hope the fediverse and Lemmy take off, currently I'm extremely pessimistic about that because if anything the problem is the reverse of what you describe. My current front page on Lemmy (all/active):

• an article whining about Elon
• an article about Fox News/trump
• a post complaining about charging for XBL/PSN
• an article about Tesla being banned from driving schools
• an article complaining about DoorDash

and so on. And to get to this great non-rage bait content, I had to go through the trouble of even figuring out how to use the fediverse and which instance to sign up for (and then still hop instances a few times) and spend my first week just blocking like I was getting paid for it because language settings on this site mean nothing, more or less, and there are a few "communities" that pop up here that provide all of the intellectual stimulation of jamming a q-tip too far in your ear.

And if those posts alone don't paint a clear picture about who the user base is here, heading to the comments will. Most of the comments read like they're posted by "lefty white linux bro" or "communist trans linux they/them" who have decided that those are their entire identity/personality. While none of those things are bad and I tick a lot of those boxes myself, it creates a real echo chamber that borders on hostile to anyone that isn't in that category. The other side effect I've seen on this is that this place can offer up some real doozies of takes in a way that is likely to make anyone who actually knows anything just up and leave. I saw one the other day that was talking about greatest people in the FOSS space and uncritically lists RMS that was heavily upvoted. At least someone brought up why that's problematic in the comments, but imagine hopping over to the mainstream sites and talking about best musicians and seeing R Kelly on the list...

Anyway, while I don't mind an echo chamber now and then, if Lemmy in particular is to grow and be useful for anyone outside of this base, I'd suggest the community adopt something closer akin to "reddiquette" which is probably the main reason why reddit was able to get somewhat past this in the early days, and some of the "niche" communities were able to grow. I put niche in quotes here, because as it stands now Lemmy doesn't have even very vibrant communities for fairly mainstream things (music and TV, movies, etc.)

So while I personally choose to spend my time here instead of on reddit, that's mostly an ideological choice and I view as a sacrifice because I'm missing out on tons of other content that I enjoy. Even your post is a form of this – "reddit bad" (sure) "because of bots" (also sure) "and Lemmy has less outrage content and fuels engagement" (uh, no.) Lemmy has as much or more, and it's only fueling engagement on those that don't immediately bounce off, but since you posted "their team bad, our team good" you're getting upvotes and probably will continue to.