You don't see/experience Beehaw as more argumentative than Reddit? I've had a hard time staying with Lemmy/Beehaw because people seem to pop out of the woodwork to have exhaustive arguments. If I could share two experiences.
One was me asking a popular game developer how they wrote a shader for Unity so I could port it to Godot. I got a nice reply on how they did it and even a link to the Godot version someone else did. I even got other people thanking me for that comment and opening the conversation up. Another time I was explaining what that Starfield designer said on Twitter recently wasn't terrible. I explained calmly and clearly the point of view of a game developer and got responses that either people didn't see it that way or that they thought the designer still shouldn't have said those words because of the marketing timing. Overall the exchanges were great and not only gave me a new perspective but made me feel like I opened other people's eyes.
The other experience of someone telling me because I plan to vote for Biden that I support genocide and they won't hear anything about how I don't. Another great example is how people are defending pirating games from any level of game developer. Even in threads where I comment and explain that pirating hurts employees, people don't even have a decent conversation about it. They just want to keep excusing their behavior without discussion.
Overall, it's made me wonder how people are experiencing Beehaw and Lemmy. If for some reason I am the odd one out. With my two experiences, one on Reddit and one on Beehaw, I question if I am the problem because of the experiences on Beehaw/Lemmy but it's still me at the root of the experience. So, I feel like I've done the leg work to rule myself out.
I think that Beehaw/Lemmy just attract a certain type of person that typically agrees with each other but Reddit is a mixing pot of a bunch of opinions that have interesting conversations. Reddit feels like what Beehaw was supposed to be. I wish we could ensure our culture on Beehaw reflects our ideals but it's starting to feel like they don't and won't.