I fully agree with you.
I consider myself a feminist man because I think we need to do much more to bring real parity to all genders.
There are discrimination issues with women, like the fact that there's a pay gap visible also in the statistics, they don't get promoted as often and, yes, they can't join the army in many countries. There are also issues with men being discriminated from certain jobs and lacking emotional and mental support options, which we should also work towards. Let's not even start talking about the discrimination towards transgender people, because they live life in hard mode right now.
There's a particular kind of aggressive/toxic feminism that says that women should be treated better than men, and I think that it's detrimental to actually bring equality. It's the same as saying "man should be treated better than women". I think that if someone feels attacked their first reaction is to defend themselves and attack back. All this toxicity IMHO brings resistance to change and is slowing down the progress. Progress which, btw, we had plenty in recent years!
We are all in this together, so let's work together towards ending discrimination of all forms!