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I wish we stopped besmirching the act of suicide (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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There was somebody posting these lyrics in other community as something that spoke to them:

You know, suicide isn’t painless,
When you leave everyone in pain.
NOFX - Doornails

Anybody has the right to have any lyrics - or any thing really - to mean whatever it needs to mean to them. But...

I lost a dear colleague and friend to suicide just a week ago and I am myself passively suicidal. Bullying people that contemplate ending their suffering into staying alive or tainting the names and acts of those that already did is just not the way to go.

Edit: this is not critique towards the person who commented those lyrics, but against that artist and society in general.

I just had to rant. Feel free to believe or react in any way that feels right to you.

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[–] [S] 3 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I hear what you're saying and I respect your opinion, but I firmly disagree, especially on that it's a "hard truth". Just like how the above lyrics didn't sit well with me because of my specific world view, experiences and opinion, you're probably also subject to whatever molded your views. There is no universal truth (except that the universe is infinite, if you're a Stargate fan). I still believe that suicide is nobody's business to the extent that we have the right to call a suicide victim selfish. It absolutely ravaged me, destroyed me when I learned that my colleague took her life. But I'd never ever judge or label her or her act in any other way than that her suffering is over.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 day ago* (3 children)

    I’ve lost friends to suicide. One helped the other, and then couldn’t handle it so he helped himself. and as someone who loved both of them for over 30 years and had to remain 3,000 miles away when it happened- i couldn’t be there for either of them. This is going to be there with me for the rest of my fucking life. So… yeah. I think I have a place in the subject to speak my mind on it.

    It fucked up a LOT of people that will NEVER get over it. So, yeah. I get to say it. It’s fucking selfish. Does that minimize it? NO. Does that dismiss it? NO. But the loss is absolutely CRUSHING for those that they leave behind. And everyone that thinks to do something so harsh- absolutely needs to know this before they carry it out.

    Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 day ago*

    Why did none of you think about how the pain needed to stop? Would you rather them continue? If they just this, if they just that... That stuff doesn't work when you're just unhappy. Some people just stay in a depressed state. If I do it, I just want everyone to be good with it and know I'm no longer suffering.

    I didn't consent to being condemned to 80 years of forced labor on a planet where life is terrible, so I should have a choice of death if I want it. If people want out, let them go.

    I'm also nearing 50, and I was only happy for one of those years in 2021. Statistically, it probably will not happen again.

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