Sweet and heat is such an amazing combination. There's an Italian chain near me whose lasagna is different from every other I've ever tried. The filling is a tomato meat sauce that's incredibly sweet to the point it's almost fruity. It's delicious enough normally, but a simple sprinkle of Cayenne or Aleppo on the top turns it into one of the best dishes I've ever had.

what the average person thinks is 'hot', I find mild/bland or just sweet

Heat tolerance at that level sucks, doesn't it? I add more Cayenne pepper to a single serving of food than Chef John puts in an entire four-person meal and sometimes I can still barely notice the heat, but if it's not there the meal feels soulless, like it's missing an entire dimension of flavor or something.