have some chud shot in the gut for being a bigot, and if OP says "that doesn't seem like the best solution" they are told they are privileged and they feel bad about being positioned as a reactionary for not supporting this line of thinking.
OP has said this isn't what they were talking to but I want to offer some advice on this situation anyways for any other youths.
You don't need to reply to everything. Sure, if you think what people are suggesting is wrong and bad then it's fine and good to speak up. But if you are already stressing about how you are perceived, you aren't in the right space to offer your dissenting opinion online. Let someone else take that on.
I'd weigh speaking up in your actual community (could be online too, but usually a smaller or more closed circle) higher than replying to randos online. You don't know who is just trying to initiate conflict for kicks.