sexualizing (and thus degrading)
That core attitude is a big part why I can't respect this new secular Mormonism. There's nothing degrading about sexualization. The very idea of it is tied to the idea that a woman's worth is tied up in her virginity, which is a concept born from the patriarchal ownership of women. Sexualization is only degrading to property because it reduces the value of the property. Anyone who claims they don't see women as property but that sexualization does degrade women is incredibly confused.