The problem is when they react poorly to our contribution, we internalize the error as our own flaw rather than recognizing we picked shitty people to socialize with.
i got actually fucking screamed at for saying "hail gay satan" while everyone else was saying "hail neil breen" wtf else do you expect me to do? i have never seen a neil breen movie and i'm your queer acquaintance with religious trauma who nobody apparently told that that the fact they were a legit satanist made them uncomfortable.