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[–] 4 points 5 days ago (1 child)

That's me right there. I feel guilty because I'm not really attracted to my loved one's appearance - 'basic white blonde/ginger bitch & nerd' is moreso my weak spot. But they don't look like that at all.

On the other hand, they're really kind and sweet. And that makes me feel even more guilty because I couldn't bring it to my heart to say, sorry but no. But on the other hand, I shouldn't be so judging on appearances. Gruhhh!! Maybe it's my own dysphoria and lack of uterus or definite femme appearances, but still, ugh.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago

    i kinda hate the idea that simply not being attracted to someone is "judging their appearance", i don't understand where society got that idea.
    Like what are you supposed to do, gaslight yourself into finding them attractive? no matter how i turn it, it just feels incredibly abusive towards the person who isn't attracted.

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