I'm not "missing the point". I understand that point. I agree the aspect you point out is the same between both phenomena, and that it is really bad.
I just disagree that each phenomenon is "equally bad" because of the differences which I have pointed out. They are not "exactly the same" because they share some important things in common.
Can you re-read my previous two comments, look at the sentences and which I point out differences, and say whether you agree that they are differences or not? If you agree that they are differences, perhaps you could change your characterisation of the situation from "they are exactly the same" to "they are not exactly the same, but I think that they are so similar that there is no discernible moral difference."
Then we will be disagreeing over the relative moral importance of different factors, and can leave the conversation having understood each other.