Of course, at first it appears that our frustration comes from other people - but then some people get frustrated by one type of behaviour, while other people get frustrated by another type of behaviour - suddenly it becomes difficult to justify frustration as innately arising from certain behaviours, doesn't it? It all ends up being completely arbitrary and therefore without any central truth.

You get frustrated because the behaviours you perceive (which are rarely even the behaviours actually displayed) trigger uncomfortable emotions in you, which you are not aware you can simply turn your attention inwards and allow and sit with, so you believe you must fight the external cause for your frustration for your system to settle down - a paradigm that leaves you feeling completely dependant on other people's ability to adhere to whatever system of behaviours you believe to be the "proper one", for your emotions to stay in control.

Your points are actually irrelevant at this point, because the discussion is no longer about your points, your points are now being used as a weapon to win a fight in which you believe something is at stake. It's no longer just an interesting exchange of opinions.

So because you have exchanged clarity for frustration and blamed it on something external, the discussion is no longer about the discussion, so we'll have to discuss the thing that's in the way of the discussion first of all, so that you can recognize that your frustration is yours, give you the tools to sit with it and not need me to change for you to be calm, and only then can we return to yours and mine points in a friendly matter.

What a gift you've stumbled into really - a lifetime ahead of you where other people will never seem like the problem again, and you'll have the power to always take responsibility and regulate your own mental state.

A crossroads! But do you take a moment to turn inwards and discover your inherent power? Or do you explode outwards again.

These opportunities come once or twice in a person's lifetime. Wat will you do?