If some gay people are being bigoted against gay people then those people are bigoted. We're talking about closeted Republican gays who vocally push against gay rights. They are the enemy of gays, including themselves - they deserve to be called out for their utter hypocrisy. The fact that they exist in significant numbers is very important to bring to light and make them recognize that they are not alone - and that for all Republicans, their bigotry is the wrong policy - even for themselves. In general it's not acceptable to 'out' closeted gays, because they deserve privacy, but when those people are actively trying to hurt other gays, they need to be called out at least as a group. When people point out the large grindr usage at republican conferences it's bringing to light a truth that has the power to help remedy the bigotry. It's not a slur. It is funny in that it points out a ridiculous hypocrisy and doesn't give any room for a response without republicans facing this hypocrisy. So their only logical response is to actually recognize their bigotry and change course for the better, or deny the facts, or to act all butt-hurt about it as if it's an attack on all gays. You seem to be speed running the last two options, which is pretty sad.