This year’s midterm elections will turn on many issues. The Iran war, tariffs, inflation. Immigration, taxes, health care.

But there is another, potentially potent undercurrent in several key races that could determine control of Congress — what makes a real man?

It’s the latest example of tough-guy politics since Donald Trump brought his own version of masculinity to the trail more than a decade ago, belittling Republican rivals and defeating two Democratic women in his White House campaigns. Now many Democrats are trying to project their own manhood — or at least more confidently deflect conservatives’ attacks — as they try to return to power.

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[–] 52 points 3 days ago* (3 children)

A real hetero cis-man doesn’t need a subjugate women in order to protect his fragile ego. He is a capable, involved father. He takes responsibility for his own life and doesn’t need a mommy to take care of him. He doesn’t claim ownership of women’s bodies. He at least does his own fucking chores, like an adult. He develops his own passions and skills, always seeking to improve himself and grow. He is emotionally open, vulnerable and able to demonstrate compassion and kindness towards others. He values people over things. He doesn’t give credit to an old man in the sky for his successes and failures. He is an ally who defends the vulnerable, like our queer allies.

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  • [–] 34 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    Defending the vulnerable is essential masculinity.

    Males who punch down are the weakest, at best they are little boys.

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  • [+] -18 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    Moms protecting their babies is masculinity now?

    This thread is a dumpster fire.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    What a wild way to interpret what the commentor was saying

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  • [–] -5 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    No interpretation was necessary. They were quite specific.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    You're right, they were. And they said nothing about moms.

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  • [–] -4 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    Defending the vulnerable is essential masculinity.

    This includes moms protecting their babies plainly, on its face, without question. I have no idea what point you thought you were making but I'm not going to keep reading you try. Byebye.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    The point is that you're going out of your way to find something to be offended about for no good reason.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 days ago

    And they completely failed to illustrate that point, as have you. If you think fighting back against pointlessly gendering things is "no good reason" then we have nothing to discuss because you just told on yourself. It's not up for debate. Go back to reddit with that shit.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    There isn't such a thing as "real men" and "fake men". Abusive men are still men. They are just bad men.

    Also, you are implying that in order to be a "real man", you have to be a father. I have no interest in having children. I am still a man.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 days ago*

    It’s all bullshit anyway. I personally don’t care if someone is “manly” or not. The universe has no checklist of gender qualifications you must meet in order to be a good person. And you’re correct. There’s abusive and non-abusive people.

    But it’s fun to use the language of the abuser against the abuser. It’s stealing away their distorted interpretation and turning it on its head.

    This is a movement of “trad dads” who want to work all day and leave women with the responsibility for child-rearing.

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  • [+] -7 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    You just described basic human decency that all people should strive for. Attributing these things to masculinity is counterproductive.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 days ago (2 children)

    Can you even name one positive masculine trait that you don't consider universal?

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  • [–] 2 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    No, because it's all made up bullshit with no basis in fact. What is or isn't "masculine" is determined entirely by the whims of society and has no meaning beyond that.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

    Can you name one negative masculine feminine trait that you don't consider universal?

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  • [–] -1 points 3 days ago (1 child)

    There's no positive "feminine" trait that isn't universal either.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    So what differentiates the two?

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