Just takes persistence. Its a low effort activity that most people are doing as the digital equivalent of window shopping. But you occasionally stumble on someone serious.

Its not really that different to real life. If you spoke to 500 single people of your preferred gender chances are you'd only get considerable interest out of a handful. Especially as you're using lemmy. /j

It feels like the apps started charging an insane amount per message which probably made a lot of people match and then go quiet.