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[–] 3 points 7 hours ago (1 child)

Like, yeah. Your great aunt Abigail who was always so bad with money that she and her best friend lived together in a one bedroom apartment for 45 years despite always taking vacations to Vermont and the third largest Greek island to celebrate their favorite poet was almost certainly gay. Maybe. There might be a clue.

But actual literal platonic roommates have existed for a long time. Like, it's relatively recent that people started to practice living exclusively with romantic partners and family.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 hours ago (1 child)

    Yeah, I was just curious about Keilik's world view in particular and how it led to them having this perception. They explained in another response that in their experience people could afford to live alone so it appeared to be a choice to live together (and then assumed it was romantic versus for other benefits like to platonic companionship/safety etc.)

    But actual literal platonic roommates have existed for a long time. Like, it’s relatively recent that people started to practice living exclusively with romantic partners and family.

    My instinct is to think that housing practices depend so much on social and cultural norms so it seems like this needs some really specific context to be true but then I catch myself realizing I have no idea what you mean about recent so I am in fact a clown for jumping to conclusions about your meaning 😅

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  • [–] 2 points 6 hours ago

    To be clear, I was most echoing and agreeing with you, and I just had a sudden mental image of the world's least subtle gal-pal-lesbian that I wanted to put out there.

    And yeah, my "recent" is a pretty long horizon. It was in roughly the 1700s that we started to see people living less in arrangements that we would be willing to call "roommates" in the west. Largely driven by factors relating to industrialization making it so people who lived in proximity were less likely to work in proximity, and making it more feasible to sustain and manage redundant living situations. It was still common though, since the financial perks hit unevenly. Increasing urbanization pushed towards denser living, while doing more to move families into private housing. Hence the apartment with 40 steelworkers in bunk beds image, and the apartment next door with a pair of siblings, their spouses and children and maybe a grandparent.
    This trend continues across a lot of cultures, although the specific arrangements vary. Industrialization being the turning point. Although the soviets had a more unique twist as a result of picking up entire rural communities and dropping them in low cost buildings. You get a lot of the communal living type arrangements we saw through history but stuck in an oddly modern setting, with maybe two unrelated families, a handful of singles and a few couples all sharing an apartment with one kitchen, a complicated bathroom and a bedroom breakdown roughly what we'd expect now.

    One way or another, people throughout history have tended to want to live near family, which included friends, liked having a roof, and usually didn't bother building more cooking tools than they needed. The specific forms have changed, but the social nature of humans is pretty consistent.

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