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[–] 74 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (3 children)

This is just art, buddy.

You don’t have to be autistic to enjoy making art.

Edited to add that for the 0.1% of people who thought this was “patronizing,” it was intended to be supportive.

“This is just art, man. Everyone can make art, you don’t have to qualify it by saying it’s autistic.”

No one has to be apologetic about making art.

But keep being angry!

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  • [–] 4 points 1 hour ago (1 child)

    What's the harm in this person recognizing that their autism plays a role in their enjoyment of specific activities? If it were more stereotypical (a model train set for example) would you have the same gut reaction to go "you don't have to be autistic to enjoy making model trains buddy"? Plenty of demographics enjoy a family/neigborhood barbecue, does that remove the cultural significance of the black cookout? Do you patronizingly comment that everybody likes cookouts?

    I genuinely don't get the impetus for neurotypical people to hop in the comments of neurodivergent people posting about the intersections of neurodivergence and joy to just go "well makes plenty of people happy, what does that have to do with neurodivergence???" Like, do y'all just think if a neurodivergent person isn't talking about the ways their brain doesn't work "right", then they have no right to talk about something and how it relates to their condition? Just kidding, y'all complain about and diminish that too

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  • [–] 0 points 1 hour ago* (1 child)

    The fact that you took my comment as “patronizing” says everything I need to know about you.

    I hope you continue to have the day you deserve somewhere else.

    Genuinely: go be angry at supportive comments somewhere else!

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  • [–] 1 point 51 minutes ago*

    Nevermind the three sentences preceeding it asking questions and reframing the comment in similar situations to demonstrate how/why it can be seen as patronizing. Genuinely, how do you see your original comment supportive? Honing in on the last sentence of my first paragraph and summarily dismissing me as "angry" is also a really convenient way of ignoring the substance of my criticism.

    I'm not mad, I'm a bit annoyed at the trend I was commenting on, and pointed out how comments like those are the flip side of people dismissing the struggles of neurodivergent people. Your response here echoes the same dismissive and patronizing tone of your original comment, so I must be missing something. What am I missing?

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  • [–] 9 points 3 hours ago (1 child)

    This is how I feel whenever I see a post from autism comms.

    It's just like: [normal ass thing] + teehee autism amirite guys?

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  • [–] 10 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

    I’m happy that OP had a nice day, but yeah, classifying things as autistic activities vs non autistic activities is so incredibly cringey and unhealthy.

    I like math, always have. I’ve been told by multiple people that means I’m autistic. This year I literally had someone point at me and say “you’re autistic. You like math, you’re autistic”. They don’t know me near well enough to know something like that, and frankly it’s very belittling to be reduced to “oh, you like this thing, that tells me everything about you as a person”.

    I’m glad understanding is up and the stigma is decreasing, but please everyone chill.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 hours ago (1 child)

    “You like math; therefore, autistic” is such low brow judgement, if I ever heard one. Next they’re going to say, “if you really like ‘don’t jump on a crack or you’ll break your mother’s back,” you’re autistic.

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