I don't usually get involved in internet drama so I wasn't aware of this.

I started with Conduit. I hit some bugs though, and development was very slow. I looked at all the forks. Conduwuit was the most active, and all the issues I had were solved, so I used it. It got archived because of some other internet drama, and the readme said to use Tuwunel instead, which is what I'm using now.

Should I use something else?

I dunno. Use whatever I guess, as long as it's not Synapse.