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submitted 5 days ago by VetOfTheSeas@discuss.online to c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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[–] AlecSadler@lemmy.dbzer0.com 87 points 5 days ago (4 children)

When I sold cars I was explicitly told to never ignore the wife and if I did it was an immediate deal killer.

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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 21 points 5 days ago

Good for your boss… and good for the couples who wouldn’t put up with that!

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[–] Hozerkiller@lemmy.ca 17 points 5 days ago (1 child)

I had a boss who bought a car from the dealership across the road out of spite after a sales guy did that. Deal killer might be an understatement.

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[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 12 points 5 days ago

Guy who owns both dealerships: "Mwah ha ha my plot worked again!"

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[–] VitoRobles@lemmy.today 14 points 5 days ago

In job interviews, we pay attention to if the applicant gives eye contact and engages with the female staff members.

It's a red flag when they don't.

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[–] Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 12 points 5 days ago*

I work on boats but got the same advice. Often the wife sits to the side and I try to draw her into the conversation and ask her opinion.

My wife gave me the advice as she always points out when I'm talking to someone and they don't look at her. To be fair, it often happens to me when she's talking to people, and I'm glad I was made aware of how rude it is.

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