Bullies and their ilk have the same concerns as anyone else, even if they don't follow the social contract the same way as others. They care about their appearance, their relationships, even if it's in a warped narcissistic way they all have a place to hit below the belt. Call them fat, question their sexuality, make them feel weak or small or alone, each of these is little more than a different way of hurting another person, there is no conviction of belief in these statements.

I'm saying the content of what is used is not my concern in these situations, only that pain is dealt in a way that has a favorable outcome. Violence with words has a place in society for all of the knowable past and foreseeable future, but in my opinion should only be used for utilitarian retribution in a way that promotes peace and harmony (such as getting that person to leave the altercation).

Now with everyone on the internet everything is a public place, it's new to society in general and people sometimes don't realise they're being watched and listened to not just by their personal relations, but any number of strangers ready to jump in the line of fire and get their feelings hurt. With all that said I'm done with the topic, internet strangers don't get to police the morality of my private speech and if I ever say anything untoward to someone I actually know, I'll make amends to them only.

I literally said I don't believe in public shaming.

Literally? No. You said you're "not in the business of shaming people for that".

I said they should be ashamed of themselves.

Yes, you've said that multiple times in this public thread. Am I not to take that as public shaming? You're literally telling any/all fat people who might read your comments that they should be ashamed. That is public shaming.

Your cousin should be ashamed of himself to have reached that point.

No. You have no knowledge or understanding of his life and are in no place to talk about him. That's really rude.

without that shame he would never do that work

You have no way of knowing if internal or external shame played any role in his lifestyle changes and yet assume that you know.

Because being fat is shameful.

I disagree. I think it's shameful to publicly shame others for things which you cannot know or understand. You assume, and you assume the worst, like many others. That, I find to be shameful.

I can add being poor reading comprehension to your list of faults

Rude and arrogant.

including being okay with Nazi tattoos.

Well that's just a blatant strawman argument, as I've not mentioned nor responded to anything about nazi tattoos.