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[–] 1 point 2 weeks ago (2 children)

It becomes hurtful toward fat people when made part of the insult. It's played like "dumb fuck" or "gay fuck", putting an adjective in front of an insult makes that adjective part of the insult.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

    Image DescriptionTumblr post by fluoresensitive: Small penises aren't bad, balding isn't bad, being short isn't bad, being fat isn't bad. Physical traits are not signs of morality, and the sooner people stop mocking people for their bodies (yes, even when they're bad) the better.

    User uxji responds with a drawing of a stick-person labeled "You" holding a gun labeled in red "Bodyshaming" firing to the right at a stick-person labeled "Guy u don't like but will not care" who is deflecting the shot to the left which hits a third stick-person labeled "Person you care about with the same trait who now knows you think they're ugly"

    User cretaceousundead responds: Like another tumblr post said "when you make fun of a bad person for their appearance, somewhere there's a good person with a similar appearance who hears you and feels terrible"

    screenshot of three tumblr posts explaining that bodyshaming as a way to insult one's enemies is bad because it causes innocent people to feel bad about themselves while not affecting the intended targets

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  • [–] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    I get what this picture is saying, but I'd like to point out this is an issue that was never a problem outside of celebrity before the turn of the millennium. I say if used in defence with private issues, use whatever works if the collateral damage is only imagined people, just don't make hating a part of your identity.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    I don't understand what you're point is, do you know that there are no fat people present that could be hurt by this?

    Do you think that promoting bodyshaming when those shamed aren't present is ok?

    Also what's this about it not being a problem before the turn of the millenium?? Are you gonna start whining about woke millenials and cancel culture next?

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  • [–] 2 points 2 weeks ago* (1 child)

    I mean this is only a society wide issue when dealing with the social media panopticon.

    If you are for example dealing with a bully in person, they don't respond to the pressures of society correctly, attacking any of their insecurities is fair game if it will correct the behaviour or otherwise keep them away.

    Who the hell would think "oh no, there's someone across the globe that might have a hurt feeling if they knew about this private conversation"?

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  • [–] 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    Who the hell would think "oh no, there's someone across the globe that might have a hurt feeling if they knew about this private conversation"?

    I'm pretty sure they were trying to say that continuing to normalize it is a bad thing because it says to the other people in those private conversations "these are acceptable things to say to and about others".

    I think it's kinda like how some people would argue it's bad to say racial slurs, even in private conversations, because it can be a signal that racism itself is acceptable. It's similar with anti-queer slurs too. The mindset is that it's better to avoid using a person's body as the basis for insults.

    Like, I'm trans, and when I was still hiding that fact from others, I heard lots of slurs and hurtful things, because the other person in those private conversations thought I was "one of the guys". It'd be nice if more people who are not the object of mockery would confront it instead of going along with it.

    Anyway, I think that's what they were saying, and I hope I've made sense.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    I don't think about it as normalizing because I view these kinds of words as weapons, you don't go spraying them in public like a psycho, they need to be saved for someone especially deserving and ideally without an audience.

    It's unfortunate that the horrible people of this world are still people, and have all the same insecurities as any innocent person, but that won't stop me from using the tools at my disposal.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    I thought we were talking about their use in private conversations in which the people being mocked are not the other person in those private conversations. So you mean like, if you're alone with a person who has intentionally harmed people without concern, those are the situations in which you'd use such terms to mock the person to whom you're speaking? I can't imagine that would matter to them. Idk, am I misunderstanding you?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 weeks ago

    Bullies and their ilk have the same concerns as anyone else, even if they don't follow the social contract the same way as others. They care about their appearance, their relationships, even if it's in a warped narcissistic way they all have a place to hit below the belt. Call them fat, question their sexuality, make them feel weak or small or alone, each of these is little more than a different way of hurting another person, there is no conviction of belief in these statements.

    I'm saying the content of what is used is not my concern in these situations, only that pain is dealt in a way that has a favorable outcome. Violence with words has a place in society for all of the knowable past and foreseeable future, but in my opinion should only be used for utilitarian retribution in a way that promotes peace and harmony (such as getting that person to leave the altercation).

    Now with everyone on the internet everything is a public place, it's new to society in general and people sometimes don't realise they're being watched and listened to not just by their personal relations, but any number of strangers ready to jump in the line of fire and get their feelings hurt. With all that said I'm done with the topic, internet strangers don't get to police the morality of my private speech and if I ever say anything untoward to someone I actually know, I'll make amends to them only.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    I mean, I'll conclude with "sure I get your point and I agree to a point".

    But at the same time I fully understand that I'll stick to my; I don't mind people being fat or stupid or an ass, my issue will reside in when people know they have this objectively bad thing about themselves and refuse to do anything to fix it.

    If you're overweight and just accept that you're overweight and do nothing, that's not a good thing.

    If you're overweight and are working on it, good on you partner.

    I will always judge the first group, because everyone should have the self realization to try to be a better person. I say this with full observation of the irony.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 child)

    my issue will reside in when people know they have this objectively bad thing about themselves and refuse to do anything to fix it.

    why is this an issue for you? Why do you care? Why is it an "objectively bad thing" what people do with their bodies? Would you call someone a "smoking fuck" or a "tattooed fuck" or whatever? What's it to you? Also you don't know what a fat person "working on themselves" looks like. For instance psychological trauma can cause someone to become fat and that person might be unable to get to a societally acceptable weight until that trauma is resolved. Which might be impossible due to other factors.

    There are so many facets to this that you cannot possibly know or comprehend unless you have very close fat friends or are fat yourself.

    Not to mention that your judgemental attitude makes it harder for someone to lose weight. One of the reasons fat people don't like to jog or got to a gym or really be in public at all sometimes are the judgemental looks and attitude they get even when they do what everyone expects of them: losing weight.

    Also there just are different body-types, and not just the one that everyone expects. I don't know if you have spent any time around babies but they look all completely different in terms of how fat they are and it isn't due to diet, or lack of exercise, they were literally born that way. Why should this be different for adults??

    I will always judge the first group, because everyone should have the self realization to try to be a better person.

    A thin person is not "a better person" because they're thin fuck off with that.

    Just let people be who they are and don't expect them to become acceptable to you. That's a really shitty thing to do to others.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    Because I live somewhere with socialised medicine

    So yes, the smokers, the fatties, the idiots on bicycles who don't wear helmets have an impact on everyone else, because it's not an infinite pool, and so everyone who is a burden because of their behaviour has an impact on everyone else

    Tattoos don't cost the health system. Even the person climbing a tree who falls out and breaks their arm has no impact

    Fatties do. Smokers do.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 weeks ago* (1 child)

    Being fat does not mean being unhealthy. Plenty of people are counted as fat by societal standards but aren't unhealthy. Being fat is also not a disease. Weight can cause health issues but that doesn't mean that someones health issues are necessarily caused by their weight.

    It also is very much possible to gain weight without being able to stop it. You can't will yourself out of mental illness, as much as everybody say otherwise...

    Also even if someone just is fat and that has caused health issues why shouldn't they get healthcare?? Aren't they part of the same society that everybody is contributing to? What kind of society is it where people can be blamed for their illnesses and told that they are an undue burden?? That's sick.

    You have no clue what you're talking about and are just parroting what you got off 4chan or wherever. Sad stuff. Try thinking for yourself for a change.

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