The beatings will continue until morale improves

Good luck and have fun

Doesn't that require at least one consenting partner though?

So if someone already feels irretrievably doomed, it's kinda like telling them "Just find someone who loves you and is willing to try kinky stuff with you that usually scares a majority of people."

with a caring partner, yes. There are plenty of bad actors in the community unfortunately. Being part of munches and social events helps reduce them as most chuds don't have the patience.