If anyone said "autism means you can feel free to be a dipshit" then I missed it, and wouldn't agree. The point is that if your personal temperature preference is different enough, you'll probably get stigmatized for that, too.

The irony here is in the common stereotype that autists can't cope with shit. In reality autists can be pretty fucking excellent at coping with shit (they have a lot of practice at it), and just not get that much credit for trying.

In reality, a lot of the shit you're asked to cope with boils down to "don't be like you are", which, aside from anything else, isn't very human rights-y. At a more personal level, you will effectively be held accountable for neurotypical people's feefees, while people in general have absolutely no compunction about ignoring, stigmatizing, and pathologizing yours. The people who think your social and emotional skills are dogshit by default will not hesitate for an instant about leaving you all the work they're supposed to be much better suited for.

A very small minority of people in minorities just might overindulge in what accommodation they feel should be owed them sometimes. It's still massively more common for genuine problems to get unfairly stigmatized, ignored, and belittled.