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[–] 17 points 1 month ago (1 child)

Wait wat. Then how am I supposed to express exactly that? I only realized I was trans close to graduating high school. All my close friends up to that point had been male. Male gender stereotypes influenced what I did in my free time, how I behaved in class, how I saw the world.

It took effort to shed some of that. Maybe it's because I haven't heard it used in a transphobic context yet, but "I was male socialized" is, I'd have said up to this post at least, very apt.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    There ARE transphobic contexts that other people here can better explain, but also, "Male/Female Socialization" generally implies that everyone has the exact same set of experiences they go through based exclusively on assigned gender, ignoring race/ethicity, sexuality, class, ability, neurodivergence, etc.

    Like were you "male socialized" as a middle-class neurotypical white guy or what? It just doesn't provide a lot of useful context compared to how often it's used as a thought-terminating cliche to dismiss trans people discussing gendered issues.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Like were you “male socialized” as a middle-class neurotypical white guy or what? It just doesn’t provide a lot of useful context compared to how often it’s used as a thought-terminating cliche to dismiss trans people discussing gendered issues.

    There's a fine line between "everybody is unique, so no description is perfect" and "everyone is unique, so no description is possible."

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Of course, but when discussing patriarchy it's more useful to just utilize intersectional frameworks and specify you grew up poor/black/closeted or openly gay along with AGAB, while when people say "male/female socialized", it's.. too unhelpful to converse around. Descriptions are already possible without resorting to defaultist phrases that, frankly, assume someone is white, middle-class, etc like I mentioned. Too many people are not those things, these aren't outliers.

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