My youngest has a thousand hours plus in this game, but every time I've seen him play it, he spends more time faffing about in the menus than driving it. I made a comment about it one day, and he said that's what's fun about it. (His Steam review just says "It's not bad" LOL)
I kind of agree, though, although I prefer just driving in it. There's a setting for everything. I wish more games were as configurable.
That said, I understand your frustration with that.