That or projection and they are cheating themselves... been there

A downward spiral that ended more or less there.

We had been together for a couple years, long distance. she was a couple months from moving back.

Start of conversation, I say: Kate said that the renfest tickets were about to go on sale

Who's Kate.

Kate at work, there's a crew that goes every year, we should go.

What else do you and Kate talk about?

Devolves into wanting an index of female friends and leading questions of if they are nice...

Mind you, we'd not been fighting; I was always accountable and on time. We had just spent most of a week together.

Near the end, she made it an "it's either me or her..."

Kate is gay... I could have went down that path, But at this point, "woah woah woah, give me your key, we're done"

I never regretted that.

Had a friend who's wife started assuming he was cheating or trying to cheat with any other woman in his life. It was very extreme. Like - he once held the door open for a random woman entering a restaurant and she started accusing the woman of being a whore.

He ended up staying with her for a few more years because their daughter was 16 and he didn't want to end up paying child support, and when they split up the 18yo daughter moved in with him.

yeah, i have met women who make this a requirement to date them. it's not common but it exists.

you basically can't interact with any other women than your family. because so much as smiling at a woman cashier at the grocery store is cheating. it's really not about that though, it's about their need to control you to feel secure.

it also is almost always a double standard, because that rule doesn't apply to her talking to men.