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just figure it out smh (thelemmy.club)
submitted 2 months ago by [M] to c/femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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[–] 3 points 2 months ago* (6 children)

... no?

Have you ever met a conventionally attractive, but socially awkward autist or serious introvert?

Of any sex/gender?

Some such people are women!

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago (5 children)

    I can fix her!

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago (4 children)

    thwaps you with a ruler

    No! No.

    You don't need to fix that.

    You just need to be ok with also being an introvert / socially awkward person, and then you two can be eachother's person who is generally less taxing and more enjoyable to socialize with than others.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago (3 children)

    I am awkward and stressed, but not an introvert! Under the right (wrong) circumstances, I can drown a person in conversation, and even be very excited to talk!

    Since I will never bother someone by telling them they are kind of cute/asking them out, my only hope is that I get kidnaped by a crazy femcel!

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago* (2 children)

    Not sure if we've gone over this before, but that sounds like me 10-20 years ago: socially awkward in a usually endearing but sometimes extremely (unintentionally) inflammatory way.

    cough Autistic cough.

    I know its scary but you really do just need to practice socializing a bit more, in person.

    Probably safer to practice with other autists, if you can find them.

    Being able to ask a person for something, politely, in a context appropriate way is an extremely important life skill. Yes, I know it really sucks and seems confusing as fuck because people do not actually make sense.

    ... But people do mostly make sense, most of the time. It just takes exposure, and courage.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I suspect ADHD, my brother has Asperger symptom. Could possibly be AuADHD?

    Yeah, I appreciate you, and your advice!

    We talked about stuff before, and I like you in general.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago*

    Asperger's just is part of Autism now, the DSM V basically rolled up everything similar into Autism Spectrum Disorder, where there are a whole bunch of behavioral 'dimensions', and basically if your 'total score' exceeds a certain threshold, congrats you get the Autism achievement, lol.

    99% sure anybody who was diagnosed/classified as Aspergers would now be essentially a 'flavor' of Autist.

    There is also a significant genetic component to Autism... if your brother, mother, father have it, etc, more likely you will as well, or at least be higher on the ASD score than a normie from a family of normies.

    AuDHD is Autism + ADHD, which can and do co-occur, but at least for myself, I'm just Autistic.

    Anyway, this is all an overwrought way of me trying to say you have more options than consigning yourself to hope for a fantastic movie plot to occur to you.

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