I could never get much into online gaming because it’s a full time job keeping up with the meta and if you are not highly skilled you are just cannon fodder.

Some, yes, but certainly not all of them.

I've been playing The Finals and it's a great casual game. I think I average like 6 hours a week or something. The matches are short, toxicity is low and its fun. Most of its player-base are casuals, a lot of console players. And it's designed in a way that even if you have bad teammates or lose you can still have a lot of fun since the main game-mode is 3v3v3 or 3v3v3v3, has fun movement and a completely destructible environment. Just blowing shit up is enough enjoyment on its own.