That's because it's neither a points system, nor a corporate ladder, nor an auction, nor an investment account. It is a relationship. I spend time with whom I love.

He loves all people but hates sin. So if you're a sinner, he's not capable of loving you. Or something like that, idk, I stopped calling myself a Christian a long time ago for exactly these reasons. The god I was taught to worship would never even allow Hell to exist, much less send the majority of humanity there to suffer in never-ending torture.