Not every game is for everyone, and that's okay!

I bought demons souls, could hardly pass the first level, and put it down.

I bought dark souls when it came out, and again, played a bit, didn't get it, and put it on the shelf.

Dark souls 2, bloodborne, and darks souls 3, all the same story. I knew they were amazing games, I just didn't get it.

Then on some reddit post someone talked about summoning a player to help, and the summon charged into the boss fight naked with only a katana like a freaking jedi.

Every time I had played the games, I was slow, with heavy armour, hiding behind a shield.

I put in dark souls 3, and went super light weight with a fast sword, and something just clicked.

Dark souls 2, it was the twin blade, dark souls one, a katana.

While I haven't platinumed them all like my girlfriend has, I have beaten all the main souls games except bloodborn and Sekiro with a variety of builds.

Elden Ring was the first one we both got to play new together, and our first play through was one of the best gaming experiences I've ever had.

I highly suggest going back to dark souls one and trying out the different styles. Magic, pyromancy, heavy weapons, fast and light, etc.

There is a really good chance one style will click, and the whole series of amazing games will open up for you.