While I'm 100% on your side here and I make a point to champion the actual values of these anxiety riddled glass boxes, I do want to point out that we can do all that without them. My kid didn't get modern electronics until he was competent with paper books, dictionary, and offline only tech.

That said, the added stance here is that we can have both. My kid's phone is locked down to the point that he can't even message contacts that I didn't approve. It's all operated in house from his phone, my phone, and the shit box excuse for a server I run. I have a curated plan for how he'll earn his way up to full access and planned strategies for teaching him the safety and independence he needs. I know exactly fuck all about tech, can't remember any commands for Linux, struggled to understand Docker, but still managed to make it happen. If I can pull it off, the only thing stopping literally anyone else is the choice not to do it.