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Stubsack: weekly thread for sneers not worth an entire post, week ending 31st May 2026 (awful.systems)
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Want to wade into the sandy surf of the abyss? Have a sneer percolating in your system but not enough time/energy to make a whole post about it? Go forth and be mid.

Welcome to the Stubsack, your first port of call for learning fresh Awful you’ll near-instantly regret.

Any awful.systems sub may be subsneered in this subthread, techtakes or no.

If your sneer seems higher quality than you thought, feel free to cut’n’paste it into its own post — there’s no quota for posting and the bar really isn’t that high.

The post Xitter web has spawned so many “esoteric” right wing freaks, but there’s no appropriate sneer-space for them. I’m talking redscare-ish, reality challenged “culture critics” who write about everything but understand nothing. I’m talking about reply-guys who make the same 6 tweets about the same 3 subjects. They’re inescapable at this point, yet I don’t see them mocked (as much as they should be)

Like, there was one dude a while back who insisted that women couldn’t be surgeons because they didn’t believe in the moon or in stars? I think each and every one of these guys is uniquely fucked up and if I can’t escape them, I would love to sneer at them.

(Credit and/or blame to David Gerard for starting this.)

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[-] mirrorwitch@awful.systems 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I mean, those sound like rookie numbers to me. I regularly spend like, less than five minutes between eye-contact-and-smile and wild hardcore sex, and most of the five minutes is the time to walk them down to the dungeon and negotiate limits. The only special trick is simply going to a space where everyone else also wants to have sex, it's called a sex club.

Leaving aside all considerations of ethics, I cannot comprehend why the supposed bastions of rationality would waste time with baroque theories of psychological manipulation to try to coax randos during non-sexual situations into having sex, when if all you want is sex you can simply go have sex with the people who want sex. Or just pay for sex, or use grindr or whatever. You know, like, if I wanted to play boardgames I would go to boardgame night, if I wanted people to listen to me sing I would go to karaoke. I would not approach strangers in a bus stop and go, "hey wanna hear me sing?" The idea of doing that for sex of all things is bizarre to me.

(This is a rhetorical sneer, the pickup-artistry phenomenon is easily comprehendable; it's because these men are not really trying to have sex, they're trying to fulfil a gaping hole of unexamined, endless need for validation.)

[-] Architeuthis@awful.systems 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

if all you want is sex you can simply go have sex with the people who want sex. Or just pay for sex, or use grindr or whatever.

Rationalists used to more openly stew in incel culture, a big part of which is that beyond sex you are also owed undivided love and attention, so there's probably still a big deal of self-worth attached to that.

Incels who are fine with just paying for it call themselves MGTOW and are kind of a separate subculture that I feel has mostly petered out by now, probably because it's harder to separate from regular old women-strictly-as-sex-objects type misogyny.

[-] gerikson@awful.systems 11 points 1 day ago

it’s called a sex club.

Amazingly, this was the sitch for the first post

A month ago, I went to a sex club for the first time. One big thing I noticed: the classic “your eyes meet” trope absolutely did not happen at that club. And I don’t just mean it didn’t happen to me - every single woman there avoided meeting the eyes of anyone. The only exception was people the women already knew, as indicated by greeting them with a wave or a “hey, how are you” or similar.

Now I have never been to a sex club nor do I plan to, but if I were to go, I'd probably try to talk to regulars to find out the workings of said club, instead of outing myself as a massive weirdo by writing a blog post on a forum ostensibly about the value of rationality.

That said, if you want sex, going to a sex club to get it is very Rational.

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