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Not too much to ask for (thelemmy.club)
submitted 3 months ago by [M] to c/Couplememes@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 25 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Being upset for a bit and keeping to yourself is fine but expecting a partner to always clue in isn't ideal. When you're with a good partner you should be comfortable and confident to address your own problems with them. If they clue in before that great but you should be making your problems known if the problems are messing up your day that badly.

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  • [–] 10 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    This says nothing about expecting your partner to pick up on it. It's implied they have already picked up on it and are now reacting.

    All it is saying is they want a partner to react with empathy, not with entitlement or annoyance.

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  • [–] 0 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    If the person who is in a bad mood is pouting and moping around and waiting for their partner to ask instead of being honest about how they feel, then they're being toxic.

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  • [–] 10 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Interesting how you took, "being quiet" as moping and expecting a partner to pick up on it.

    That is not said in the tweet. At all.

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  • [+] -6 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    No, it's the "acting different" part is what I took as moping.

    Which is clearly in the tweet. Verbatim.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    You... realize that is quoted, right? That's what the inattentive asshole partner thinks.

    Maybe you don't get it because you are the asshole in this scenario?

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  • [–] -2 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    If OP is quiet when they normally aren't, then they're acting differently, aren't they?

    Why did you read the partner as being an inattentive asshole? Maybe they're autistic and don't pick up on other people's body language and moods.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    It's the assumption about why they're quiet that's the problem.

    That is the entire point of the tweet, yet you're constantly pretending they're being quiet for some nefarious or immature reason.

    It's one thing to not pick up on it. It's a whole other thing to jump to, "why are you ignoring me?".

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  • [–] -2 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    The tweet is vague enough to be open to many different interpretations.

    We don’t know why they’re being quiet. You have no more insight into that than I do.

    We simply disagree on the interpretation.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

    Their partner also gets to interpret it. The difference is what you assume.

    That's the whole fucking point of the tweet! They don't want someone like you who would assume the worst.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    I think undergroundoverground has the right view here. Your comments are disagreeing about how to interpret the tweet. The tweet is vague enough that one interpretation could be that OP is quiet and has reasons to not be communicative about their struggles (maybe OP isn't even aware of their behavior), and another interpretation that OP is intentionally being moody and waiting for the partner to console them. Arguably a good faith interpretation is more productive, but that's arguable

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