Even if we grant that my gender is intrinsic (which I don't, see my next paragraph), your comment doesn't address the root of the issue. The root of the issue is that you think there's a difference between someone performing their gender "properly" (in your eyes) and someone who is, well, I'm having a hard time summing up your position, because I think it's pretty fucked up, but the other option, I guess, is someone who is presenting themselves in a way you think is weird, and you think they're lying? Mistaken? What are we going for here? I don't think there's such a difference, as you can tell, since I'm struggling to even articulate the second thing.

Ok, so onto the gender being intrinsic situation: I could have very probably lived my whole life as a woman and been pretty ok. Also, my gender isn't one such that top surgery is entirely a given. In a different world, I would still have rather large tits, and not these giant scars across my chest. I absolutely reject the framing that any of this is intrinsic, at least for myself.