yaps loudly in agreement about how fucked it is that people pointing out a problem get blamed for being the real problem by privileged asshats!

Avoiding "bad words" and "hostility" doesn't mean a person is good or nice. Sometimes hostility is justified or at the very least has a point.

I did report it. The problem is many of these arguments come clothed in the fabric of politeness.

Yup. And Beehaw is already doing the thing I predicted they'd do back during the Reddit blackouts: They allow polite genocide endorsements but warn/suspend/ban people who tell those people to fuck themselves because we're not "being nice". Shocked Pikachu when Beehaw ends up being no different from shit-just-works.