I hate to break it to you… but your friend is a transphobe

You think so? I usually try to avoid using those terms for more overt displays?

I won't deny that the cognitive dissonance is jarring though. I think there's a few schools of thought here. I can either cut them out of my life or I can slow burn them over time. I've known this guy for a long time and he respect me to a degree ... so I'd rather be that friend that pulls him back to what I see as normal.