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The bathroom terrorizers! 😱 (thelemmy.club)
submitted 6 months ago by [M] to c/transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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[–] 12 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Someone has replied to you with documented examples covered in the news, but I can also add that I (a cis woman) have personally experienced harassment of this sort a few times (including being forcibly groped by a TERF when trying to enter a city-centre public restroom. This was in the UK a few years ago, and they were campaigning outside)

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago* (2 children)

    including being forcibly groped by a TERF

    I hope you punched her and broke her jaw

    And if you didn't I hope another victim did

    Actually I hope another did regardless of whether you did

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I shoved her away, and I did consider punching her, but I realised that I was being read as a trans woman in this context, and that my actions could reflect poorly on the trans community. Like, I didn't want to feed into the rhetoric of "trans women are violent".

    It was surreal to realise how identity and perception work together in weird ways. There's been a few other times where I've been read as being trans, and I ended up just sorting of accepting it because if I protested and said that I wasn't trans, that it would risk coming across badly — as if I am implicitly agreeing with them that trans people are bad.

    So yeah, this results in the bizarre scenario in which I am a cis person who sometimes identifies as trans

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago*

    Based re: the last sentence, but also I feel sorry that that happened to you. Terfs are transphobes, I still go to the women's bathroom, and if there's a long queue, fuck it, whatever bathroom is emptier.

    You know what I noticed? Often the bathrooms for women and men seem the same "size" from outside, but when you enter them, there's much fewer. At my work, there's 2 toilets for women, and 4 for men + 3 urinals. If that isn't sexist, then I don't know what is!

    If I need to pee I need to pee, Karen. And sometimes, my head wonders why I don't just pee on those transphobes as they want to prevent me from doing a basic need.

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