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Our duty (thelemmy.club)
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[–] 10 points 7 months ago (2 children)

No, we do. It's why we opted not to have any. We want to do what we want to do. Not whatever our children are into.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago* (1 child)

    My oldest wanted to learn guitar. So did I. We are taking lessons together.

    My youngest loves video games. Highlight of his week is when I can sit down and play with him.

    Both my kids love reading and arts and crafts, which my wife also enjoys much more than I do.

    Why can't you and your kids have overlapping interests? When you're raising the kids, it's normal for them to be curious about the things you enjoy. Kids hobbies and interests end up overlapping or reflecting their parents more often than the other way round.

    My oldest also likes Minecraft. My youngest loves soccer. Neither of us really enjoy either of these things. But we do also enjoy seeing our kids developing interests and personalities of their own. If that means we have to spend an hour a week going to Pee-wee soccer (and, meanwhile, hanging out with other parent friends), so be it.

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago

    Why can’t you and your kids have overlapping interests? When you’re raising the kids, it’s normal for them to be curious about the things you enjoy. Kids hobbies and interests end up overlapping or reflecting their parents more often than the other way round.

    They can I suppose, but it's certainly not guaranteed. I've seen enough of my friends have kids and the resulting impact to their social life and ability to do what they want to know that it isn't for me. Yeah it got a little better for most of them when the kids got older and more self sufficient but it was still a massive trade off up til that point and I don't see it as being worth it for me.

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