The difference is that reactionary black people don't have racial privileges the way white people generally do, black people are more likely to be victims of violence than perpetrators, and I don't know if you're reading the room or not but their communities have been terrorized for centuries. Without knowing anything about you personally I can't comment on your experiences, but we live in a racist system designed to keep black people down and superexploit them. Even as things get progressively worse for us trans folks we need to stay in solidarity with black people and other POC, it's the right thing to do and there's a lot we can learn by listening to them.