You're so close, perhaps you chose your words poorly. Actively helping women be safe is, I'll call it positive misogyny, in that you definitely understand the problem but your solution is still defined by misogyny.

Men don't need to actively help women be safe, because that still doesn't provide full agency to women. You, a man, have to actively stop other men from being unsafe. Either through helping each other grow or force if necessary.

I'm impressed with how close you were to the mark. Seriously I think you understand why the patriarchy is bad. I'm just ust helping you, who I assume is another man, grow hopefully