But what about my jokes and ability to do black and white generalisations?

I tend to read it as "they do not speak for me". If you don't speak up, then many people believe you agree with them, by default.

By apologising, you are saying you actively disagree, but don't want to get bogged down in the details. You might not stand directly with the victims, but you do stand beside them, against the abusers, and want them to know.

it all makes sense that she's nothing more than a coloniser