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Couples with big difference in sexual drive, how do you get along? (lemmynsfw.com)
submitted 8 months ago by to c/asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com
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So, I'm in a long-term relationship with my loving partner, and everything is good, except for the matters of sex. Suffice it to say, one partner (male) has a very overwhelming sexual drive, while the other (female) needs sex like once a month (and it has always been so throughout life). Partners are monogamous and do not explore options of having a third party.

Can any good advice be derived for such cases? Is there something that can be done to improve things on each side? I would love to hear your advice.

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[–] [S] 6 points 8 months ago

Just because she doesn’t need it or think about it doesn’t mean she doesn’t enjoy it when it happens

True! She does enjoy actual sex, but often finds it hard to initiate, to get to that edge after which primal takes over.

We do have a lot of communication, and I make sure to share love without always preying on her lol. Though it gets complicated sometimes - regardless of her drive.

I also focus on her pleasure and reduce her anxieties about the receptive role as she often looked at sex as a sort of chore to please the man.

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