It was over the last 2 years or so. It's gonna be a long road to recovery, but if nothing else, I'm going to fight through all this just because the best revenge is to live a good life and she will be absolutely infuriated to see another ex of hers recover from the abuse while she's still in debt and unable to survive without having a partner to leech off because she's unwilling to work and unwilling to cut back on her lifestyle. I'm not the first victim and I doubt I'll be the last, but it brings me some joy that her new boyfriend is literally the male version of her. An abusive liar, cheater and narcissist.