Money, children (even before birth), everything.

When she was pregnant, I had to talk her off suicide multiple times after minor fights. Some of those times it was followed up with "but will you buy me X like I wanted"?

We owned over 50 strollers in less than 2 years. Many of them bought brand new, all sold with a loss. None were ever good enough. And then she fancied the same model she'd already bought and sold 5 times. Last time she got one of those in particular, I told her it would end our marriage. She laughed it off. We did not buy another stroller after that one and got divorced 2 months later or so. That one stroller was my final line in the sand, after hundreds of other reasons to break up. Sometimes you need a specific "if you do this after I've begged you not to, we're done" because it helps you realise how little respect they have for you.

Shit, that sounds awful. I'm glad we didn't have any kids involved. Sorry you're going through that.

Incredibly painful and had me borderline suicidal at the time because I had ZERO friends or support in the city we'd moved to for her job, I'd only lived there a few months.

Mostly doing a lot better these days, after a lot of therapy (I had other shit I was working on in therapy prior to the cheating, I was 6 months sober when she cheated on me. It almost broke me but I kept the streak, still not a drop of alcohol to this day), then I said fuck it and moved 1000 miles and restarted my life about a year ago.

I definitely still have trust issues though. The idea of dating again still makes me anxious enough that I've only been on one date since moving here.

Oh and somehow she's already married? So fuck me even more lol