yeah its incredibly difficult to explain to just random's especially if you are out in public wearing it. Ugh. And I learned early on to just not say the name Lolita unless the other person said it first.

I was never really a Tyler fan and I've never enjoyed the cattiness of the community. That part was disappointing for me because it felt like I couldn't make friends through this hobby. It's why I stopped going to meet up's for it too. It felt like paying to have friends who weren't even interested in actually being friends through a shared interest.