And that's completely ok if it doesn't help you, I don't mean to invalidate your own experience. I was using a personal anecdote to show how language can influence thought, though there are better examples- like the Australian Aboriginal tribal languages that lack words for "left" and "right" and refer to everything relative to cardinal directions. As a result, they have impeccable senses of direction.

Or another example, linguistic relativity in colours (ie. Languages without a word for a colour like pink might have trouble distinguishing pink from red).

And if reframing words wasn't helpful for some people, there wouldn't be Narrative Therapy centres still running.