We're not extra mad because he's gay, we're extra mad because he's a hypocrite.

You should be extra mad about someone being publicly anti gay but privately gay

If someone is a bigot, that's one reason to be mad at them.

If someone is a bigot or allies with bigots against something that they themselves are (publicly or privately), that's at least three reasons to be mad at them: bigotry, hypocrisy, and betrayal of other people who are the same thing.

I agree. I'm mad at him because he has betrayed the people of the country he is supposed to serve more times than I can count. Sexuality, gender, race, etc. have no bearing on my feelings about him.